Title: We Are Okay
Author: Nina LaCour
Genre: YA fiction, LGBTQ fiction, grief, depression, mental illness
**The following review was originally posted on a discussion board for my Children's Literature class**
My second YA pick for this week’s reading is We Are Okay by
Nina LaCour, a character-driven novel told in chapters that alternate between
the present and flashbacks. Our protagonist, Marin, is a college student hiding
the grief over her grandfather’s passing that occurred unexpectedly two weeks
before her freshman year of college: “I just appeared in the doorway two weeks
after Gramps died. I stepped in- a stunned and feral stranger” (LaCour, 2017,
p.3). Marin has somewhat successfully stifled her grief but it bubbles to the
surface as anxiety attacks (“Slowly it comes…The sound and then faster-the
sight of waves crashing in, pulling back, disappearing into ocean and sky. I
open my eyes. It’s too much” [LaCour, 2017, p.5]) and past depressive episodes
(“No one will know if you stay in bed all day” [LaCour, 2017, p.3]).
Marin has a love for literature-especially literature
containing ghosts; this is probably since her mother died when she was a
toddler and Marin’s mother remains a mysterious yet ghostly presence in Marin’s
mind and identity. Mysterious because Gramps claims that all family photos were
lost. While Marin wrestles with her grief, she must also contend with her
feelings for Mabel, her former best friend who comes to visit Marin over their
respective holiday breaks.
After the initial awkwardness wears off, the two girls
discuss the painting The Two Fridas
by Frida Kahlo. I felt this section of the book and the girls’ interpretation
of it was a metaphor for Marin’s struggle with grief and the status of Marin
and Mabel’s friendship: “The painting is how she described it, but there’s also
more. Behind the two Fridas are storm clouds, gray-blue and white. ‘I can’t
tell, I say, if the trouble is coming or if it’s passed and already left them’
“(LaCour, 2017, p.95). The conversation then shifts towards possible
explanations of the two Fridas in the painting: self-identity, loss of self,
and emotional connection, all while a literal snowstorm rages outside of their
room (a metaphor within a metaphor?).
As the story slowly evolves, the reader finds out that while
Gramps had been acting erratically and hiding a serious physical and mental
illness, Marin and Mabel’s relationship unexpectedly turned from friendship to an
illicit romance. The flashbacks climax with Marin’s discovery of her
grandfather’s shrine to Marin’s dead mother (not everything was lost after all)
and evidence that Gramps committed suicide by walking into the ocean.
The themes of We Are
Okay are grief/loss, betrayal, family secrets, teen sexuality, friendship,
mental illness/suicide. There are a few F-bombs sprinkled throughout the text
and the mention of suicide and a sexual encounter makes this a book full of
“sensitive topics.” Although some adults might disapprove of the content within
this book, our lecture notes remind us that “many of our young people face
these issues every day. It’s
important that their perspectives are represented and that the collection
reflect the needs and interests of all our users regardless of our personal
views” (Carruth, 2018).
Since
the YA I read is either happy fiction or dystopian fiction, I had to consult
the Internet for help in finding read-a-likes for LGBTQ YA fiction that also
centers around grief and loss. Thankfully, the Internet gave a me a few lists:
100
Must-Read LGBTQIA YA Books
The
Latest in Realistic Fiction for Young Adults
11 YA
Books About Grief and Loss to Make You Think (And Cry) in 2017
Citations:
Carruth, D. (2018) Introduction
to materials for youth [Word document] Retrieved from https://vsu.view.usg.edu/d2l/le/content/1710195/viewContent/27688012/View
Doll, J. (2016, November 11). The latest in realistic fiction
for young adults. Retrieved from https://www.nytimes.com/2016/11/13/books/review/the-latest-in-realistic-fiction-for-young-adults.html
Jarema,
K. (2017, March 9). 11 YA books about grief and loss to make you think (and
cry) in 2017. Retrieved from https://www.bustle.com/p/11-ya-books-about-grief-loss-to-make-you-think-cry-in-2017-43211
Kahlo, F. (1939). The
two Fridas [Oil painting]. Museo de Arte Moderno, Mexico City.
Stepanuik, C. (2017, May 11). 100 must-read LGBTQIA YA books. Retrieved from https://bookriot.com/2017/05/11/100-must-read-lgbtqia-ya-books/